I’m pretty sure that at some time since 2001, you have received an email titled, “Through a rapists eyes” or “Through the eyes of a rapist”, an exaggerated tale of so called facts and figures about rhyme and reason behind to bottom feeders more commonly known as rapists. Although this email is inaccurate at best, it does however shed some light on known facts that women should pay attention to on their day-to-day travels. So ladies… please take heed and keep yourselves save on these mean and crazy streets we have out there.

  • Always be aware of your surroundings and who may be lurking in, around and under them (parked cars, dumpsters, doors to buildings)
  • When parking, try to park close to security / pay booths and near to bright lights and cameras, avoiding under-ground parking is always a good idea
  • Take martial arts or at least basic self defense classes. You don’t need to be Bruce Lee or Jackie Chan, but the self-confidence you build from taking these classes will let you walk a little taller, because nothing says “come and get me” like a scared target cowering down the street. And a quick effective strike can mean the difference between life and death. Always try to put up a fight, make noise, cause a scene whatever you have to do to make it more difficult for an offender.
  • RUN! Don’t become that dear stuck in headlights. Use that fear and run faster than you ever have, you life may depend on it.

If you haven’t seen that email, here is a copy that has been circulating. Much of the facts have been debunked and unproven, but the tips are worth a read.

Hi, everyone! I just finished taking the most amazing self-defense class, sponsored by Shandwick, and I wanted to share some really valuable info with you before it goes out of my head. The guy who taught the class has a female friend who was attacked last year in the parking garage at Westport Plaza in St. Louis one night after work and taken to an abandoned house and raped. He started a women’s group and began teaching these classes soon after. This guy is a black belt in karate and trains twice a year with Steven Segal. He and the others in this group interviewed a bunch of rapists and date rapists in prison on what they look for and here’s some interesting facts:

The #1 thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not as common targets.

The #2 thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. The #1 outfit they look for is overalls because many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing and on overalls the straps can be easily cut.

They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m. The number one place women are abducted from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.

The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught. Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years. If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two

for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

These men said they will not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

Several defense mechanisms he taught us are:

  • If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell “Stop” or “Stay back!” Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target. If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling “I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY” and holding it out will be a deterrent.
  • If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If they grab your wrist, pull your wrist back so your hand is in waving position (palm facing forward) and twist it toward yourself and pull your arm away. It is hard to hold onto wrist bones that are moving in that way. They stumble toward you and you stumble back, so you can use that momentum to bring the same hand out and backhand them with your knuckles in the forehead, nose, or teeth.
  • If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh. HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands – the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it. It hurts.
  • After the initial hit, always go for the groin. If you hit a guy’s testicles, it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he’s out of there.
  • When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can, and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

Please forward this to any woman you know, it’s simple stuff that could save her life.

For the complete article and the breakdown of all the fake facts and unsubstantiated claims, check out Snopes.com. But like the email says, if reading this can save a life or someone getting raped, that is my motivation for posting this, since the email has resurfaced again.

Peace, love and safety, Y’all.